The trouble stems from the fact that as her parents we have to decide on boundaries and tell her things like "no," " stop," and "that is absolutely not appropriate." It doesn't help that Maddy's life is filled with yes men. Lots of people that simply live to provide her with her every one of her hearts desires. I love that she is loved by so many people, but all those yes's really make our no's sort of invisible. Us "no men" are slightly outnumbered.
Luke is taking it pretty hard. He definitely liked life as the Daddy that could do no wrong. I am a little more adjusted to it but as I have mentioned before she
We can't help but wonder how long this phase will last. We have always known that as parents we would have to play the bad cop role sometimes, however, I don't think either Luke or I thought that the bad cop role would feel so permanent and nonstop. Never ending no's while other people get to swoop in and save the day is a little rough.
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YES I totally understand this feeling. Jack acts more like this with me than his daddy though. I just put it down to me being home with him all the time and him hearing No and Go to Time Out more from me.
Yes Men can be very frustrating at times especially when you have just said NO.
I am happy to say we dont have any "Yes Men" around but the "thoughtless suggestion men" can be bad enough. We try not to use words like "candy, icecream, cookies etc " as it just leads to wants but some others have to get used to this limited vocabulary.
Don't feel bad all my kids want to stay here in North Carolina with my dad. They have no rules, have ate junk food, played computer, video games, and watched tv all day. Not the same way we run our house. My dad and his wife smoke in the house all day which is making me crazy but Nate tells me to suck it up and let the kids have fun. I did buy some fruit at the grocery store and have them eat it last night and this morning. I think it is the first thing they ate in days that didn't have preseratives and artifical something in it. Oh well, I suppose getting spoiled a few days a year won't kill them. Good thing at home they have rules! I will say they have been really, really well behaved. I guess when they can do whatever they want all the time they don't have any reason to misbehave.
Our Yes Men don't work to undermine our choices, but due to lots of reasons Maddy's yes me just get the opportunity to say yes more often than not. All the while Luke and I have everyday life to contend with.
Don't get me wrong, I love our Yes Men and so does Maddy, I just wish I could be a Yes Man more. Being the bed guy gets old.
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